Not being able to experience an orgasm can be frustrating, can cause self-esteem issues or even embarrassment between couples. Both men and women can experience orgasm challenges. Men and women experience orgasms in a similar way, that it is the satisfying and pleasurable “end” of a sexual experience. Beginning with foreplay, a build-up of sexual tension is created that eventually is released in the nerves and muscles as well as emotionally. Having an orgasm in the presence of another is an intimate and vulnerable experience that helps partners feel closer to one another. Orgasms have also been shown to help relieve aches and pain, improve sleep quality, reduce stress and more.

In men, not being able to have an orgasm is often referred to as delayed ejaculation, meaning it can take a very long time to orgasm and ejaculate. This can be caused by a number of factors including inhibition about having an orgasm with a partner or being accustomed to a particular style of masturbation.

Orgasmic difficulties can be primary or secondary. Primary has occurred since the start of the individual’s sexuality whereas secondary begins later in life. Orgams can also decrease in intensity. In women, this too can be caused by a number of factors including limited sexual education, insufficent stimulation, inhibition about having an orgasm with a partner, body image concerns, or difficulties being erotically focused.

Sex Therapy for Orgasm Challenges in Toronto

For men and women, once the problem has been identified, treatment can begin with sex therapy. Your sessions will begin with a thorough assessment by your sex therapist to help you uncover what your roadblocks are to sexual pleasure. With the right guidance, one can improve their ability to orgasm and enjoy one of life’s greatest pleasures. Sex therapy provides a safe, supportive environment for people to openly discuss sexual concerns that they may have. Sex therapists use a variety of therapeutic techniques and exercises that are designed to enrich and restore sexuality. You will never be asked to engage in any kind of sexual activity in the therapy room. However, it is common to be assigned ‘homework’ that can be practiced in the privacy of your own home.

If you believe you and your partner could benefit from the services of a couples sex therapist in Toronto call 647-295-5935 and make an appointment to see Esther Benbihy. Esther has a Masters Degree in Counselling Psychology, is registered with The College of Psychologists of Ontario, and has helped scores of Torontonians find a path through their difficulties and lead more satisfying sex lives.