How to Keep Your Sex Life Alive in a Long Distance Relationship

If you’re in a long distance relationship for the first time, you might be struggling with being unable to have sex with your partner. While it’s easy to get outside help regarding an in-person sex life, it’s a bit harder for those doing things long distance. However, we do have some tips you can start with. That’s because there are plenty of ways to keep your sex life alive in a long distance relationship. Let’s take a look at some of the creative solutions you haven’t considered.

Phone Sex, Video Sex, and Sexting

To begin, we have to take a look at some more obvious solutions. While you and your partner may not be able to lock yourself into a room for the night, you can give each other a call. When in a long distance relationship, creating the most sensory experience you can is the best way to make up for the lack of physical touch.

The most classic response to long distance sex is phone sex. Simply calling each other while you masturbate can be an incredibly intimate experience. The sounds your partner makes can do a lot to close that distance between you and make them feel more within reach.

After camera phones came into the picture, we also amped up ldr sex with sexting. Sending your partner an intimate photo is one of the sexiest things you can do when long distance. A trusted partner can hold on to that photo and return to it whenever they’re missing you. This can be especially useful when both partners are in different time zones.

Finally, if you and your partner each have a computer or smart device with a camera, you can video call while getting intimate. This is less permanent than a photo but comes with so much more action. You can do a little strip tease for your partner or show them all the things they’re not there to touch. It’s all up to preference.

Getting Kinky

There’s more to sex than masturbating together. Cultivating a healthy sex life in an ldr means communicating. This kind of communication easily becomes foreplay.

At the beginning of your ldr sex life, have discussions about your kinks. If you and your partner have compatible kinks, discussing the way they can interact is a great way to have fun. Plus, this kind of discussion can lead to both partners having solo time without necessarily doing so together. This is great for people who aren’t quite ready to head all the way into phone sex territory.

When you’re more comfortable with your long distance partner, discussion of kinks can turn into discussion of scenes. If you like roleplay, BDSM, or other less conventional kinks, talking about what kind of scenes interest you can be a lot of fun. It can even lead to some long distance scenes, which are fun to act out over the phone. 

For those scenes that simply must have physical touch, making plans for when you meet can be both sexy and romantic. Nothing says “I love you” like planning a sexy date for the weekend you first meet.

Being Playful

Looking for something a little less discussion oriented? Not interested in sending pictures of yourself? There are a lot of ways you can keep your sex life alive in a long distance relationship that don’t involve either of those.

Getting playful and coming up with fun little games to play with your partner can help increase sexual tension in a good way. On a day where neither of you have any out-of-the-house commitments, make it a rule that both of you have to spend the day undressed and neither of you is allowed to touch yourself until after a certain time in the evening. 

This kind of teasing is a fantastic way to create sexual tension that lasts all day. Plus, when you finally get to doing things with each other, the satisfaction will be more heightened than usual. And, if you don’t make it until the time you decided on, well, no one has to know. Rules are meant to be broken after all.